Do you need to be loved to love yourself?

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We are all familiar with the phrase: “You must first love yourself before you can love another”. There seems to be a lot of sense in it. Yet, we also know that being loved by another helps you to love yourself. …


How it feels when my energy body becomes activated


I’m having some sort of epic kundalini activation…it kept me awake many hours! (The die-hard optimist in me is hoping that all of my strange blood circulation symptoms this past month were just a part of this re-calibration!) I feel …


Are you Falling in Love in your Tantra Workshop?

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It is easy to fall in love in the Tantra world. Several times a day. Being caressed by a deeply present person. Eye gazing for endless minutes.Sitting in yab-yum with your bodies pressed up close feeling every breath.  Moving energy …


How can Grief open your Heart?

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I remember the day that I realised that grief is a form of love. I was walking in Yoyogi Park in Tokyo and I received a message that a dear friend had died in childbirth. After some moments of shock …


The one thing I wish I had known about love

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There is so much they didn’t teach us at school, and life becomes a trial-and-error playground as we try to work out how to live and to love. This means that so often it is through our mistakes that we …


Love, Fear, Relating

Beloved Lover, There are fears deep within me. Let those fears not create controlling patterns. May I not create a contract based upon bonds of fear, turning our relationship into a bondage of limitation. But rather may I find empowered …


Do you get more love when you are in a relationship?


A dear friend asked me: “do you think you receive more love when you are in a relationship or when you are single?” She asked this at a time when I was just out of a relationship and was enjoying …


Six ingredients of a deeply fulfilling life

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Have you ever stopped to ask what supports your most fulfilling life experience? These are my top six steps to fulfilment and a quick guide to help you find yours….


Darkness: Return to the Source

I have chosen a life of adventure. I have stayed with tribes in longhouses in the jungle, trekked across deserts on camelback, slept in caves, camped for weeks on uninhabited islands…all of which have brought much richness to my life …


The healing power of love

I am grateful to all of the Lovers Who have appeared As pieces of the one consciousness You have been witnesses To dark parts within me That wanted to be seen, Just seen, So that they may be healed And …